{"id":649,"date":"2023-02-08T03:41:00","date_gmt":"2023-02-08T03:41:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/d2fpc.com\/?p=649"},"modified":"2023-08-17T08:53:57","modified_gmt":"2023-08-17T12:53:57","slug":"give-constructive-criticism","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/d2fpc.com\/?p=649","title":{"rendered":"Useful Criticism"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n
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It is time to bag the sandwich method of delivering bad news. You know, the technique where you say something nice, then drop in the criticism, and the end with something nice. It\u2019s not like the person won\u2019t notice that the center of the sandwich is terrible; the method is really designed to make it easier on the giver.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

When you communicate something to somebody, it\u2019s irreversible and irretrievable. You can\u2019t take it back, and it can be difficult to know what words to say in order to approach somebody and give them feedback. Whether you need to say they did or didn\u2019t do or something, it feels uncomfortable.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

The old methods of feedback can have a ripple effect with your team, resulting in people calling in sick, getting upset, or even quitting. But conflict avoidance isn\u2019t the answer. Instead, start with, \u201cGot a minute? Great. I need your help.\u201d<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

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Nothing about this is scary. And \u2018I need your help\u2019 is an international surrender of agenda. It\u2019s a disarming way to get attention sincerely and genuinely. And you do need their help because their behavior is becoming problematic.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Next, say, \u201cI noticed an unusually inappropriate behavior by you and I was wondering what\u2019s causing this problem. It cannot continue. What do you suggest we do?\u201d<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

The word \u2018because\u2019 is one of the most persuasive words\u2026 everyone wants to know what comes after it.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Also, asking what the person suggests we do is powerful because people are persuaded most by their own words. The approach is designed to be nonthreatening, compassionate, and open-minded. It finds positivity in the way you communicate, manage, and lead, especially when you need to correct a problematic behavior.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

The traditional good-bad-good \u201cdirt sandwich\u201d method doesn\u2019t always work. People still use it because they\u2019re nervous about being too critical. This newer, thoughtful and direct approach is actually a verbal contract you are creating with another person to better yourself as a leader and better them as team member, colleague, or friend.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

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Giving negative feedback is important in many situations. If you delay or don\u2019t approach a sensitive subject, it\u2019s like not telling a friend they have spinach in their teeth.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

If you have spinach in your teeth, do you want to know or not? It\u2019s still there. When something needs to be said, most people in the group know it. Everyone, that is, except for the person who needs the feedback. It\u2019s like someone walking around with a \u2018kick me\u2019 sign on their back.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Words are power containers. Every word should be carefully selected. Sometimes people want a script, but you don\u2019t want to sound scripted. When you\u2019re ready, it should feel planned, not canned.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

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The tone you\u2019re seeking is helpful rather than reprimand. You set the expectation by saying, \u2018This cannot continue’. \u201cAsking, \u2018What do you suggest we do?\u2019 makes the point that it\u2019s us against the problem, instead of me versus you.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

==\u00a0\u00a0 Stephanie Vozza\u00a0 ==<\/strong><\/p>\r\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It is time to bag the sandwich method of delivering bad news. 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